Sunday, December 21, 2014

Don't Blame Barbie

With Christmas fast approaching there has been a new trend in girls toys.  There has been toys that focus on engineering and math focused at girls.  There are also toys that are generated to help girls deal with self-image.

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Recently I came across a "more realistic" doll.  This doll comes with stickers of stretchmarks and zits that you can put on her(see it here).  This is the counter-culture backlash to the unrealistically proportioned Barbie doll.  While I applaud the attempts of this company to make normal look beautiful I had one major problem.

Barbie was not the one who told me I wasn't beautiful...

People say there are a lot of factors that are influencing the way women feel about themselves--including the hyper-sexuality that the media and advertising moguls want you to think is prevalent. It is true that while I was in a store the other day I saw a Sports Illustrated magazine calendar with Kate Upton on the cover and did feel undesirable, but it made me think "when did I start to feel this way about myself?"

I had a pretty good sense of self esteem growing up. I went to a small private school where I was often the only girl in the class.  It was not until I went to high school that I started to feel bad about myself.  Was it the media that had finally started impacting me?  How about the boys catcalling me in the hallway objectifying me?  No, it was my fellow female schoolmates.  They ultimately are the ones who told me I was fat, ugly, and obviously gay because I was in 9th grade and didn't have a boyfriend.

Standing up for the little gal...

"You all have got to stop calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it ok for guys to call you sluts and whores."--Ms Norbury, Mean Girls

There is a huge problem in this world.  Women are not sticking up for other women.  In a male dominated culture, we should be sticking up for each other, not tearing ourselves down. Make no mistake, I am not a femi-nazi, but I believe God created us Male and Female, not Male and lesser being.  

Getting back to the point though...I don't blame Barbie for making women have low self-esteem.  I blame ourselves and our daughters.  We need to stop this continual wheel of self flagellation by teaching our daughters that we are all created in God's image, that we are all beautifully and wonderfully made.  We need to create a culture of love and respect.  So next time instead of blaming Barbie for your low self-esteem, think what can I do to make my daughters (and sons) instruments of change?